Thursday, March 17, 2011

The Big Debate

Over the last couple of weeks I have been debating on whether or not to continue writing. For most couples trying to conceive, they have the element of surprise at their disposal. They get to keep people guessing on whether their trying, pregnant or how far along they are. I haven't had that. I am fortunate in that, I have the most loving and supportive family and husband a girl could ask for. But I haven't been able to keep that big secret of new life and I am feeling a little left out. Knowing our situation is different and that we chose to tell people, I realize I've made my own bed, so to say. So I guess I need to lay in it.

Having gone through a devastating and painful miscarriage, the thought of having that be public once again frightens me. The whole process is frightening to be honest. But, I vowed to be honest in writing this, and I strongly disagree with keeping such a monumental time in life such a secret. I can understand why so many couples do, but at the same time I just don't agree with it. Support is a crucial component in this process and vitally important. Nevermind the information that is shared between women going through IVF. There's always a million questions you want to ask, or want to know the answers to. Sometimes you just need another lady friend to gab with, who truly knows what you're going through. Or, you learn something that you had no idea existed. I honestly had someone tell me after reading about their white flow, "Oh! So that's what that is! I had no idea." Let's be honest ladies, there's too many things that go on in our bodies. And let's face it, how many mom's really want to talk to you about them when you're growing up. Like you'd really listen anyways. If I don't say it, then who will?

I'm going to guess that some of you feel like what I write is too personal and shouldn't be discussed. Tough shit! Find a new blog if you feel that way. This is real life, it's my life, and I never really learned how to keep my mouth shut. (I think I get that from my Dad.)

Honesty is the best policy. That's my motto, I'm going to attempt to stick to it.


  1. Celia, you are such a strong person and I admire you so much! You just need to do whatever makes you feel better!! :)

  2. I love your blog and I'm glad you are going to continue writing. Although I'm sure it is tough to be so public when most are so private - I agree that support is necessary. And although I don't completely know what you're going through (yet) I can definitely empathize. xo

  3. I think it takes an amazingly brave woman to stand strong while going through all that you have. To choose to share it with others is a testament to your strength of character and bravery. You have nothing but my love and respect.

  4. I'm glad you're writing about this, Celia. I think it helps a lot to get plenty of support from family and friends.

  5. I'm glad you are still writing. Though it is a very personal time in your life, I feel lucky to be a part of it. Love you! xoxo